Yeah, the refusal to give anyone even the tiniest hint of courtesy or benefit of the doubt was ridiculous. They saw someone using a word they didn't like and instantly concluded that it could not possibly be an innocent mistake but must be intentional and targeted malice, then proceed to dogpile said person. It's shit like this that's causing "cancel culture" to be weaponized by the actual "right-wing extremists" that they villainized because it's over the top and completely uncalled for, and allows those kind of people to lump their own consequences for actual terrible actions in with things like this that are blown out of proportion.
There really is a huge problem with drama on the whole rom hacking/fan translation/console hacking scene and it's always been ridiculous frankly. People who intentionally whip things into a frenzy instead of just working to resolve issues that some may not even realize are issues are the worst offenders, and they've cost us tons of good content makers and developers over the years. As much as I'm sure we all love the hobby to varying degrees, we need to all realize that it's all for the sake of fun and trying to make a scene over something because you're "passionate" just makes you look like an ass, and ruins things for other people.
I'm glad to know that Tom is still active on at least one other project and probably a few more considering what other translators have said regarding certain of their own works, but DDS in particular has just vanished, and it would be a damn shame if he really has just up and abandoned the scene, because he was an amazing rom hacker and managed to make a lot of things work that many people over the years have tried and failed at. Basically, don't be an ass to romhackers. Just thank them for their work and if there's some issue, bring it up politely so it can be fixed.