« on: April 16, 2015, 11:26:00 am »
American, 32, not married.
No, it's not an issue.
Marriage seems to me like it's a largely outdated practice. Aside from some very weird perks, like being considered "family" so you can see someone in the hospital, and some tax stuff, there really isn't any reason to get married. It's more symbolic than anything else, and I was never much for symbolism.
You can still have meaningful relationships with people, live together, raise kids, etc. The only difference with doing that without marriage is:
1) You save money on the wedding
2) You save money on marriage licence fees
3) You save money and anguish on the likely divorce (seriously, it's something like 50% of marriages end in divorce)
4) Your taxes will be less complicated
I'm outside the US (France) and 32, but not shocked about this statistic and I completely agree with what I quoted.
Marriage seems really bind to religion to me, and as I'm an atheist, don't seem really important at all to me (same for Christmas and other things like that).
I mean, I can understand some married people are very happy, but wouldn't they still be happy even without marriage? I mean, if you love someone, it shouldn't be any different, married or not. Contrary is the same, be married won't make you less happy so whatever.
What he said, in fact
I'm all in favor of building a life/relationship with someone. I just don't see how a piece of paper saying you're married adds to that. It's a purely symbolic gesture -- which, if your relationship is grounded, is of little/no practical significance.
We could argue it's better when you have kids and there is a divorce, but in fact, no (at least, here). Wether you are married or not, only one parent often get the right to keep the kids (the mother, most of the time) so it even change near nothing in this situation.