I've noticed a couple of users lately who seem to be having this trouble. I'm not picking on you johnny, or anyone else for that matter, so don't get the wrong idea here, but I've never had this problem, and I don't think most users ever do.
I actually toyed around with hacking for years and wrote multiple complete level editors before I ever even really participated in any hacking community. Not saying that that's the norm, and the "loner" approach isn't for everybody. But I read documents and taught myself, and very rarely found myself unable to find the answers on my own. The flip side is that when I found that a task was beyond my grasp, I moved on to something else. Not giving up, just knowing my boundaries.
The rom-hacking community is full of self-sufficient users. You can't really complain if these people are irked when somebody asks for help without putting in a fair effort, or when somebody plainly doesn't know his own boundaries, or when somebody tries to recruit help for a group project when his own hacking resume is empty. Be mindful of what you take for granted.
If you really don't think that people's behavior is warranted in your situation, there's also the fact that there are plenty of people in this world who aren't incredibly patient or friendly, and you shouldn't let that get to you either.
But mostly, what danke said.
Honestly, I had this trouble when I first started. But it mostly had to do with how I learn more than anything else. I was able to figure out most of the basics on my own. But when I would want to accomplish something and would ask about it, people would say "check this document" and that'd be it. I would look up the document and most of the time have no idea what it was talking about. I'm a very visual and hands-on learner, so the documents would usually not do it for me (only a select few of the documents on RHDN actually have images).
If it weren't for a few of the more experienced members here (RedComet, DaMarsMan and Gemini in particular) helping me out in private, I wouldn't be able to do much. And unfortunately, a lot of the other members are of the mentality that you should be able to learn this stuff on your own, because most of them did. And that leads to an elitist mentality that would more often than not create situations like yours.
I'd say you need to make friends with some of the more experienced hackers around here and see if one of them might take you under their wing to learn. But I'm not sure how many of them would be willing.